Real Men Needed In Church

Posted: August 14, 2009 in Christianity
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I have been dormant for awhile. I have been sitting back observing the Christian landscape. I feel it may be time for me to start talking again.  My observations have led me to believe the church is in dire need of a dose of male leadership. Men in the church appear to be weak and unwilling to lead, even in their own households. I have seen some disturbing examples.

First is the consumption of material that is potentially harmful. The best example is the widespread popularity in churches of a book called The Shack. Men are sitting and watching as their wives and children read this book. As spiritual leaders of the household, men should be monitoring the spiritual intake of their families. Men have neglected the responsibility placed on them by God to lead in this area. The Shack is a book filled with heresy, and Christians have become so poor at discernment that they have no idea it is bad.

The other thing that I have noticed is the trend towards what I call Christian buffet. It is where a family attends this church for this program, and another church for a different program or ministry. We have lost the unity of the church that we are called to. Even leaders in the church send their children to other churches for programs.

Ephesians 4:1-16 – I, therefore, the prisoner of the Lord, entreat you to walk in a manner worthy of the calling with which you have been called, 2 with all humility and gentleness, with patience, showing forbearance to one another in love, 3 being diligent to preserve the unity of the Spirit in the bond of peace. 4 There is one body and one Spirit, just as also you were called in one hope of your calling; 5 one Lord, one faith, one baptism, 6 one God and Father of all who is over all and through all and in all. 7 But to each one of us grace was given according to the measure of Christ’s gift. 8 Therefore it says, “When He ascended on high, He led captive a host of captives, And He gave gifts to men.” 9 Now this expression, “He ascended,” what does it mean except that He also had descended into the lower parts of the earth? 10 He who descended is Himself also He who ascended far above all the heavens, that He might fill all things. 11 And He gave some as apostles, and some as prophets, and some as evangelists, and some as pastors and teachers, 12 for the equipping of the saints for the work of service, to the building up of the body of Christ; 13 until we all attain to the unity of the faith, and of the knowledge of the Son of God, to a mature man, to the measure of the stature which belongs to the fullness of Christ. 14 As a result, we are no longer to be children, tossed here and there by waves, and carried about by every wind of doctrine, by the trickery of men, by craftiness in deceitful scheming; 15 but speaking the truth in love, we are to grow up in all aspects into Him, who is the head, even Christ, 16 from whom the whole body, being fitted and held together by that which every joint supplies, according to the proper working of each individual part, causes the growth of the body for the building up of itself in love.

The church is to be unified through it’s gifts and diversity. Men today have failed to lead in this area. As a result we have lost the bond of the local church. We are called to be a part of one local fellowship. We destroy the bond of unity when are not devoted to our local congregation. I have heard the well all their friends go to a different church excuse. Is our ultimate goal that our children get to be with their friends for an extra hour each week? Or is it in the training up of our children, and the building up of your local church? This practice definitely breeds discouragement in the leaders working in the ministry that suffers as a result. We definitely live in a please me world today, and it has infected the church. As a result people are being tossed around by every wave and fad that comes through.

It is time for some men to stand up and be willing to fight for the spiritual maturity of their families, and for the building up of their local church. I will continue to struggle, even if all the other men scatter like dust. Sacrifice we must, just as Christ did for us.

  1. TOM SPANGLER says:

    The leadership role of the man / father is certainly and clearly spelled out in the Bible. It has always been a problem for men to step up and provide the leadership required in their households and their church. It comes down to the choices we make and our overall commitment to ministry. I am reminded of a very profound statement that my daughter made to me when she was only 3 years old “people do what they want to do when they want to do it”. This is so true to just about anything. Relating this to church, as an example visitation. Anytime the Pastor calls for a visitation night, how many people / leaders show up. It does not take any special skills just commitment.

    I have read the “Shack” along with other fiction books that will weave the story line around Bibi cal principles. Yes, there are many things I did not agree / believe, however, I had to keep in mind that I was reading a fiction book. Just like the “Left Behind Series””. Most of the story line was Biblically based, however, there was a lot of fiction weaved into it to make it entertaining to read. Yes, the father and the mother must be on guard about what is being read by our children, but this also goes for sports, video games and even the dark games that adults get involved in.” We are in the world, but not of the world”.

    The fact that leaders / members of the church are sending or allowing their children to attend other churches / programs is not necessary the fault or lack of male leadership within their families. Some of the reason could very well be in the leadership commitment to the program. Youth especially will desire to attend church youth programs where there is committed youth leadership. A 24 / 7 youth Pastor can make the difference in a program despite what a committed loyal lay person can try to do.

    I agree the bond of unity of the local church is extremely important. However, the glue that keeps unity together is love and concern. The year journey that the Lord put my wife and I on to find a new church after leaving the church we attended for the past 24 years really made an impact. We attended (Sunday school, worship, Sunday / Wednesday nights) of 6 strong biblically sound churches during this time. There was only 2 Pastors and no lay people that followed up with us.

    I agree what Pastor Tony Evans once said ” If you have truth without love, you’ve got haughty, proud people who brag about how much they know. But if you have love without truth, some of the people who love will hate the people who who don’t love, but who will defend the truth. You must have truth with love, because love binds everything together”. (Colossians 3 : 12-14) .

    Yes, we as Christian Men must stand-up for spiritual maturity in our families. However, we also need to encourage and uplift our brothers in Christ.

    God Bless
    Tom Spangler

  2. Jason Taber says:

    Tom, I agree with most of what you say. I do disagree greatly on the Shack. Even a work of fiction that portrays God in an incorrect way is dangerous and sinful. Are you aware that the author promotes universalism – that being that everyone is saved. He also denies that Jesus was taking our punishment on the cross. He is heretical in many of his teachings, and he pushes them in his work of fiction in subtle and not so subtle ways. I have heard him in interviews and preaching from a pulpit, and it is questionable if he is even a Christian because of his views. But many people enjoy the uplifting story while ignoring the heresy in the book.

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